Disputing Your Blocking Belief on Your Road to Success

If you feel bad, you are thinking negative thoughts. Negative thinking usually involves a blocking belief that needs to be challenged, disputed, dis-credited. This is important to self-improvement. You must eliminate these barriers to success.

The Law of attraction uses feelings as a guidance system to your thoughts. Negative feelings means you are having negative thoughts. Negative feelings means you have a blocking belief.

If when you are trying to imagine being wealthy, you have an anxious or sinking feeling, you have a blocking belief. A belief that will stop the wealth from materializing. No mater how much energy you put in to shouting about the riches you are going to have, the feelings say you don't really believe.

What thoughts are causing you not to believe? What is your blocking belief? You must slow down the thoughts racing through your mind. Catch those thoughts and discredit them.

I used to have significant anxiety when having to make a phone call. (OK, I still have twinges, but it's a lot better than it was.) I knew I had anxiety. It was obvious. At the thought of calling to order a pizza, my heart would race, my breathing would get shallow. I could even get the shakes. When I found out about REBT (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy) I started trying to capture what I said to myself.

Dispute blocking belief

Whenever I had to make a phone call, I would try and listen to the voice in my head. I needed to know what I was really thinking. First I heard: "Oh Shoot! I don't want to do this. I'll stumble and sound stupid. Can I get someone else to call?" That was all I heard "I'm gonna sound stupid." Then I asked "Why do I feel this way? What else am I saying to myself" At the beginning I didn't have an answer. Slowly, layer by layer, answer by answer, I uncovered the core beliefs, the blocking beliefs, then knocked them down. The condensed version is something like this:

• My Sub-conscious (SC): "Oh Shoot! I don't want to do this. Can I get someone else to do it?"
• ME: "Why don't you want to do it?"
• SC: "What if I stumble or stutter?"
• ME: "So?"
• SC: "They'll think I'm stupid."
• ME: "So?"
• SC: "But, they'll think I'm stupid!!
• ME: "Will they really? and does it matter?
• SC: "Well, Someone thinking I'm stupid really hurts! I couldn't stand it!"
• ME: "Is it really that bad? What will you do? Curl up and die? Stop breathing?"
• SC: "No, but I'd feel like doing that."
• ME: "Why? What is so horrible about some stranger thinking you're stupid?"
• SC: "It would confirm that I am stupid, worthless."
• ME: "Would it really?"
• SC: "In their eyes, yes."
• ME: "But would the flash opinion of a stranger really mean you're worthless? Especially someone you've never met and never will!"
• SC: "Well, no. Not when you put it that way."
• ME: "I'm not worthless. Look at all I've done! I'm not stupid, in fact I'm smarter than a lot of people. So it's not just when I put it that way. But all ways! Besides, I'm human and humans make mistakes."

There were a couple of other branches off the root of feeling worthless that contributed to my calling anxiety. -I am worthless. -My thoughts and wants don't matter. - Since my wants don't matter, I shouldn't interrupt others. - Phone calls are interruptions. - I shouldn't call people.

You can see how, with such thoughts, I had a great deal of difficulty doing anything that I thought others might judge. Now, did I really feel that worthless? At times, yes. I contemplated suicide a few times. But mostly my anxiety was a FEAR of worthlessness being confirmed. My blocking beliefs were "If I'm not perfect, I'm worthless", "I shouldn't bother people" and "My wants don't matter."

I had to keep asking 'why' over and over again until I got to this worthlessness issue. My Therapist said there is probably another layer yet. An incident somewhere when I was real young, that triggered my first perception of worthlessness. I haven't found that 'first time', but I've found plenty of reinforcing incidents.

Notice your Emotions

Tug of war with your own thoughts

Recently, my daughter asked if she could do something. This something would interfere with something I had planned. I thought for a minute and told her OK. She asked why I was mad. I denied being mad. She said "You are too. Your jaw is clenched." She was right. My jaw was clenched. I hadn't noticed.

What was my subconscious telling me? "My wants don't matter. They will never matter."

How did I get to such an extreme thought? Here's the stream of self-talk:

• "I have to adjust my plans."
• "I don't want to adjust my plans. "
• "If I don't adjust my plans for my daughters sake, I'm a bad mother."
• "I must not be a bad mother." "I have to give up my plans again."
• "Everyone matters more than me."
• "I don't matter." "I will never matter."

Once again the blocking belief that "My wants don't matter" came up. Once I recognized I was angry, I could figure out why. When I figured out why, I could refute/dispute the hidden thoughts.

This was the disputing self talk:

• "I do to matter. "
• "My daughter cares about me. She wouldn't have questioned my apparent anger if she didn't care. "
• "I love my daughter. "
• "This is a minor change that won't really change anything important. "
• "I can make my daughter happy which will make me feel better too."

Then I felt better about the decision, and my daughter. I explained to my daughter that I had some plans and that this would make changes in them. But also that the anger was just a momentary bit of frustration at having to change things until I figured out what the new plans would be and that they really weren't much change at all. We both felt better.

Next time you feel a strong emotion, catch what you're saying to yourself. Then find the roots of those thoughts.

What does this have to do with getting rich? After all, that's what most people reading this page are looking to do. I know, not all of you, but a significant portion are.

When you are creating or saying an intention, be aware of your feelings. If there is a negative feeling, keep asking why until you have uncovered the core and disputed it or changed it. Don't let a blocking belief go unchallenged.

Don't fight with money

If you don't seem to be able to think about money without tension, maybe you are telling yourself:

• "I'm never going to be rich. The rich are different from us working class people"
• "Money is evil. I don't want to be evil."
• "Greed is bad. I don't want to be bad."
• "I will never get these bills paid."
• "I can't see how this is going to work."
• "Please, oh Please make this work. I really need the money."

Don't let blocking beliefs like these stop you from improving your life.

The first three are blocking beliefs foisted on you by culture and religion. Dispute them:

• Are the rich really different? Oprah Winfrey, Bill Clinton, Abraham Lincoln, and many others were born poor and became rich and famous.
• Is it true that all wealthy people are evil?
• Can you think of anyone with money who is not the embodiment of Ebenezer Scrooge? Oprah Winfrey comes to my mind. While she gives her audience what they want, she also gives them what they need. She has many charities that she gives to as well as charities she created. Bill and Melinda Gates have given over half their wealth to charities.
• I do know a few people personally who are wealthy, but not nice people. But they would be nasty even if they didn't have any money.
• I know even more poor people who are not nice. Evil and rich do not go together any more than good and poor go together.

The second three are self-induced blocking beliefs. They focus on what is missing. They focus on Lack of money. Change that focus:

• "I can't pay everything right now, but I will have more than enough money soon."
• "I know the money is being prepared for me to receive. I need only to watch for it."
• "I appreciate the money coming into my life, and I willingly accept more of it."

Write it down

Another way to find and / or resolve your blocking belief is to take a piece of paper and at the top write out your want, your intention. On the front list the reason you want this. On the back, list the reasons you will have this. The first time I tried this, everytime I started to think of I'd get it, the thought was imediately drowned out by negative thoughts. Subconscieanous beliefs blocking out my possibilities. If you can't come up with reasons why you will receive it, you will at least come up with your blocking beliefs. Write down the negative thoughts created by your blocking beliefs. Then dispute those thoughts until you come to the root blocking belief until that too is knocked out.

Let me know what you think about this article by submitting a Comment. I'll post appropriate comments. Maybe your comment will help someone else.